Abbie 七个月啦！

时间过得真快， 我家的小宝贝不知不觉中已经七个月啦。
七个月的Abbie会干什么呢？
- 会伸长双手要大人抱。
- 会呀呀语： 吧吧，姨姨。
- 会和妈咪抢东西。
- 不爱躺着，只要坐和站（当然还靠着妈咪的“十卜”）。
- 超爱听歌，有时还会跟着音乐“哼”，应该是喊吧！呵呵！

现在，我无时无刻都会想着她。每天放工第一时间就回去我妈妈家看她。Abbie,妈咪真得很爱你呢！

Words we should never use in our working environments

I received this email from my boss, perhaps he wanna hint me somthing :D. Enjoy your reading.

Some words and phrases are often used to buy time, avoid giving answers, and escape commitment. If you use these words and phrases yourself, take a scalpel and cut them out of your thinking, speaking, and writing.

"Try"
"Try" is a weasel word. "Well, I'll try," some people say. It's a cop-out. They're just giving you lip service, when they probably have no real intention of doing what you ask. Remember what Yoda says to Luke Skywalker in "Star Wars": "Do or do not--there is no try." Take Yoda's advice. Give it your all when you do something. And if it doesn't work, start over.

Put passion into your work, and give it your best effort, so you can know that you did all you could to make it happen. So if the outcome you were expecting didn't come to fruition, it's not because you didn't do everything you could to make it happen. It just wasn't the right time for it or it wasn't meant to be.

"Whatever"
This word is a trusted favorite of people who want to dismiss you, diminish what you say, or get rid of you quickly. "Whatever," they will say as an all-purpose response to your earnest request. It's an insult and a verbal slap in the face. It's a way to respond to a person without actually responding. When you say "whatever" after another person has said his or her piece, you have essentially put up a wall between the two of you and halted any progress in communicating. It's a word to avoid.

"Maybe" and "I don't know"
People will sometimes avoid making a decision--and hide behind words and phrases like "maybe" and "I don't know." There's a difference between legitimately not knowing something and using words like these as excuses. Sometimes during a confrontation, people will claim not to know something or offer the noncommittal response "maybe," just to avoid being put on the spot. If that seems to be the case, ask, "When do you think you will know?" or "How can you find out?" Don't let the person off the hook so easily.

"I'll get back to you"
When people need to buy time or avoid revealing a project's status, they will say, "I'll get back to you," and they usually never do. If people say they will get back to you, always clarify. Ask them when they will get back to you, and make sure they specify the day and time. If they don't, then pin them down to a day and time and hold them to it. If they won't give you a day or time, tell them you'll call in a day or week and follow up. Make sure you call and get the information you need.

"If"
Projects depend on everyone doing his or her part. People who use "if" are usually playing the blame game and betting against themselves. They like to set conditions, rather than assuming a successful outcome. People who rely on conditional responses are fortifying themselves against potential failure. They will say, "If Bob finishes his part, then I can do my part." They're laying the groundwork for a "no fault" excuse and for not finishing their work.

There are always alternatives, other routes, and ways to get the job done. Excuse makers usually have the energy of a slug and the spine of a jellyfish. You don't want them on your team when you're trying to climb Mt. Everest.

"Yes, but . . ."
This is another excuse. You might give your team members suggestions or solutions, and they come back to you with "Yes, but . . ." as a response. They don't really want answers, help, or solutions. You need to call the "Yes, but . . ." people out on their avoidance tactic by saying something like "You know, Jackie, every time I offer you a suggestion you say, 'Yes, but . . . ,' which makes me think you don't really want to solve this problem. That's not going to work. If you want to play the victim, go right ahead, but I'm not going to allow you to keep this up." After a response like that, you can be assured that the next words you hear will not be "Yes, but . . ."!

"I guess . . ."
This is usually said in a weak, soft-spoken, shoulder-shrugging manner. It's another attempt to shirk responsibility--a phrase that is muttered only when people half agree with you but want to leave enough leeway to say, "Well, I didn't really know. . . . I was only guessing." If you use this phrase, cut it out of your vocabulary.

"We'll see . . ."
How many times did we hear our parents say this? We knew they were buying time, avoiding a fight or confrontation, or really saying no. It's better to be decisive and honest by saying, "I need more information. Please present your case or send me the data--both pro and con--so I can make an informed decision." That way, the interested parties will contribute to an in-depth, well-researched "verdict."

忙！忙！忙！

好久没有写部落格了，都生满蜘蛛网了野。
最近真的好忙，几乎每两个礼拜就要飞来飞去。虽然只是国内，也觉得好累也。
Never mind, I am back now！又要开始写部落格的生活啦！

全马吃透透- 吉隆坡 - Kuchai lama & Kajang

Since I transfer from QA dept to Outsourcing department, it is quick often that I need to travel here and there for meeting and audit.

For KL, this is the 2nd times I been there in the company inside the Technology Park Malaysia for meeting. Of course, I will not waste this opportunity and continue searching the yummy food in KL.

Kajang satay is so well known among the Malaysians. Since the Technology Park Malaysia is no far from Kajang, hence, to avoid the busy traffic to go back to Cititel Mid Vally, We decided to have the dinner in Kajang. In kajang, there’re quite a lots of satay stalls, but the Hj. Samuri one is still the best as I heard so far which located near the kajang stadium.




I ordered 5 chicken satays, 2 “Satay hati”, 1 deer satay and 1 rabbit satay.The satays are good, no doubt about that. The chicken satay is the best among all, only costing RM0.60 per stick. The special ones which cost more are rabbit and deer . Too bad the rabbit satays tasted like chicken satay and the deer satay tasted beef satay..wahaha…


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We went to Kuchai Lama for lunch after the meeting.Thanks for the Garmin GPS bring us there.
I've never been a big fan of fish head noodles. I starting to admire the fish head noodles when my uncle who is staying in KL brought me there.
Be prepared, the lunch crowd here can be a killer. You definitely need to drive for a few round just to look for the parking and to queue up to get a table. Normally you are given a paper to fill in our order while waiting. Anyhow, the food comes fast upon sitting down at a table.

I Love Sushi

寿司是伟哲的追最爱。每当我们想逗伟哲时，都会达“寿司”的朵。比如在他面前说等他回家时，就会带忻沛去吃寿司。或者，要他说爱我们100分，如果没有满分的话，就不可以跟我们去吃寿司，哈！有时还逼他在她父母面前最爱的是我。气得他“炸炸跳”

这次我们去Sushi King的时候，八月份刚好是Unagi season，妈咪Unagi最爱了，吃得好过瘾呢


看这小瓜吃得多滋味。

哈哈哈

今天，妈咪终于听到忻沛可以哈哈哈的笑出声音来了。
中午吃饱奶的忻沛都会小睡一下，妈咪和往常一样，都会唱歌哄忻沛睡觉。
“王老先生有块地”是忻沛近期最爱的一首儿歌。

王老先生有块地,咿呀咿呀唷。
他在田里养小鸡,咿呀咿呀唷。
叽叽叽叽叽叽叽
王老先生有块地,咿呀咿呀唷。

忻沛一开始是微笑的看着我，慢慢的从小声笑，变成大笑，哈哈哈！真的好可爱！
看着看着，连妈咪都不舍得让忻沛睡了，一直逗忻沛笑。

这一次，妈咪来不及把这美妙的一刻录影下来。没关系，来日方长，每天开始，妈咪的手机会24小时standby滴！

老婆

老婆-何谓老婆？
根据百度百科“老婆”这个称谓，最初的含义是指老年妇人。后来王晋卿诗句有云：“老婆心急频相劝。”这一“老婆”是指主持家务的妻子。因此，后来称呼自己的妻子叫“老婆”。
那，常常在一些电视节目上说：“老婆是娶回来疼得！”那老公呢？
往往，我觉得大家都没想过老公是嫁来干嘛的呢？家暴-发生的多数是老公打老婆；外遇-大多数是老公包二奶。大家都认为男人犯错的机会，或欺负老婆的机会都比女人来得高。

今天，我和家人到我家附近的巴刹的一间咖啡店去吃早餐。我抱着忻沛，在等我老公先吃饱后照顾忻沛才来享受我的早餐。我看见有一对夫妻走进来，老婆先坐下来，老公就去order食物吧。不久后，看见老公捧着一盘炒果角进来，老婆突然脸黑了，说了几句，老公又捧着那一盘炒果角出去。不一会儿，又捧着那一盘炒果角进来。老公坐下来后，老婆就不停的骂她的老公，而且声量还不低呢！就连隔壁两桌的人一直看得她，她也没有要减低声量和停止的意思。

隐隐约约听到的是：老婆已经交待老公她要吃的那盘炒果角不要certain东西，怎知，做老公的没听清楚。天啊，我还以为是什么大事！身为老公的完全一句话都没讲，我看，那是不想在大庭广众跟他的老婆吵吧！

Mushroom and Seafood Pasta

14.8.2010 (星期二)
想到斋戒月，公司卖的早餐又非常有限，每天都摆出事大天王来坐镇 - 炒面、炒米粉、炒果条和炒饭，看见它们，食欲都消失了。昨晚，妈咪看见家里有煮巴史达的材料，就决定每天的早餐就非它莫属！

材料很简单~mushroom,fresh tomato,tomato sauce, onion & mixed meat and prawn.

当然少不了的Prego Pasta sauce.

先把蒜头和大葱爆香，加入肉和虾，把它们炒到7分熟后再加入mushroom 和番茄。把所有材料炒一炒后，加入Prego Pasta sauce。最后，加入番茄酱和糖调味就大功告成了。

好到吮母指

看见忻沛吮手指的样子真的好好笑。从一开始的用手推脸、吃拳头但今天的吮母指，还吃的“吱吱”声，完全无视旁人的感受，真让人有点哭笑不得。一根空空的手指有啥好吃的。哈！专家说当宝宝真正能把手放在嘴巴里啃的时候，则说明宝宝的运动肌群与肌肉控制能力已经相互配合、相互协调了。这是宝宝智力发展的一种信号，爸爸妈妈应当为宝宝的这个举动自豪才对。 忻沛，Mommy so pround of you !






婴儿吮手指是智力发育信号 家长不要打搅孩子

很多宝宝出生两三个月，最爱做的事情是“吃手”，专家说，婴儿与幼儿吮吸手指的意义是不同的。婴儿时期吮吸手指是婴儿智力发展的一个信号，是婴儿进入手指功能分化和手眼协调准备阶段的标志之一。家长不要轻易打搅孩子的快乐。
通常新生儿只会双手握拳，胡乱挥舞，其大脑尚不能指挥把自己的手放入嘴中。到２个月至３个月时，随着大脑的发育，婴儿逐步学会两个动作：一个是用眼睛盯着自己的手看，另一个便是吮吸自己的手指。对于他们来说，吮指是一种学习和玩耍。起初他们只是将整个手放到嘴里，接着是吮吸两三个手指，最后发展到只吮吸１个手指，从笨拙地吮吸整只手，发展到灵巧地吮吸某一个手指，这说明婴儿支配自己行为的能力大有提高。吮吸手指动作，促使婴儿手、眼协调行动，为５个月左右学会准确抓握玩具打下了坚实的基础。另外，这一时期的婴儿主要是通过嘴来了解外界，婴儿认为手也是外界的东西，所以总爱将它塞进嘴里吮吸感知。
通常情况下，随着婴儿动作的迅速发展，他们逐步学会自由地坐、爬、站等，手指的动作也愈加精细，当长到能单独玩玩具的时候，孩子吮吸手指的现象自然会大大减少。此外，细心的父母可以发现，孩子在吮吸手指的时候，通常是非常安静，不哭也不闹。实际上，有时婴儿还以吮吸手指来稳定自身的情绪，这说明婴儿吮吸手指对他们的心理发育也起着重要的作用。因此，对于婴儿吮吸手指，父母不必焦虑烦恼，更不用强行制止。如果孩子的行为实在过于频繁，父母可以经常对孩子的小手进行抚摩、摆动，以转移其吮吸手指的注意力；会拿玩具时可把玩具放入他的手中，逗引他摇动、摆弄玩具，把婴儿的双手占住，使他无暇去吮吸手指。
家长需要做的是保持婴儿小手干净，保持婴儿口唇周围清洁干燥以免发生湿疹。如果孩子到了三四岁，仍然经常吮吸手指，就可视为一种不良行为，需细心了解形成原因耐心纠正。

全家福

这是忻沛出生以来的第一张全家福。超过90%的人都说忻沛像妈咪，你说呢？

对不起，宝贝

说真的，照顾小孩，我感觉到很压力.我时时刻刻都警惕自己：- 要小心，要小心 ！但，不想发生的，还是发生了！

由于在装修屋子，昨天就到我弟弟工作的电器店去看看，打打价钱。我一直抱着忻沛，忻沛很高兴的左看看，右看看，老公和妈妈就帮我看gas hob。

看完了过后，我们就一起离开电器店，我突然脚一滑，就整个人跌在电器店外的斜路上。我不管我自己，两手紧紧地抱着忻沛。还好，忻沛只是感觉到晃一晃，哭了起来，我妈妈赶快把她抱起来，她很快便收声。老公和弟弟就把我扶起来，还忙着问我有没有事。我只记得我回答：“没事，没事！”眼睛是一直看着忻沛，thanks god,看见她安全，我顿时安心起来。一上车，妈妈就连忙为她喝水，她也因为爱睡而迷迷糊糊地睡着了。

我很怕她因为吓倒而晚上起来苦闹，因为有一次这样的经验，她被巨大的alarm 声吓倒，白天还好，晚上就一直哭，哭到肚子都进风了。还好一切都平安无事。虽然忻沛没事，我还是觉得很自责，我怎么这么不小心。，

忻沛，妈咪对不起你。妈咪保证，一定会加倍小心，不会让你受到伤害。妈咪爱你！

韩国餐厅

我超爱吃韩国料理。特别是双溪大年Taman Ria 的韩国餐厅。我超爱吃这家的韩国料理，不但好吃，价钱又很公道。别看它小小的一间餐馆，吃了过够你可是会时时刻刻都想念它的哟 ！

我们最爱点他家的点了烧烤大餐，泡菜汤和炒八爪鱼 ！


在等待食物来临时，先看看周围的环境吧！


吃烧烤大餐时，侍者会全程服务，不必担心衣物沾上难闻烧烤味。


再来是泡菜汤，小菜和炒八爪鱼 ！ 哇！ 太美味了 ！这是一定要试的啦 ！

当妈妈的心情如何?

当妈妈的心情如何?这句话是我那个第一天上班，公司的同事对我讲最多的一句话。
嗯，当妈妈的心情，我也不知如何形容-有快乐、害怕、伤心、生气、失控...

妈妈的心情很快乐当看见宝宝对着你笑，当看见宝宝健健康康，当看见宝宝睡好吃好，当宝宝每天都有大便...

妈妈的心情很害怕和伤心当看见宝宝出世的时候黄，当看见宝宝头上长血肿，当看见宝宝睡不好吃不饱大不好...

妈妈的心情很生气和失控当看见宝宝晚上不睡觉，当看见宝宝哭不停又不知发生什么事，当在哄宝宝不哭时，旁边的老人"阿芝阿做"...

但，我还是喜欢当妈妈！妈妈万岁！

妈咪上班了

19.7.2010
今天开始上班了，心里很牵挂着忻沛，根本没有心工作。当然，堆积了两个月的邮件，也需要一些时间来整理。
以为第一天上班会很忙，但一点都不忙，因为很多新的issue（我是QA department滴！）我都懵查查！
我看，还需要几天的时间把所有的邮件读完，才能catch up所有的事情吧！

玩具

爹地在忻沛还未满2个月就买了3样玩具。上个周末，我们一家和外婆去逛Jusco时，爹地还带着忻沛去玩具部逛逛。妈咪赶紧下令 “：不要再买了，等忻沛大一点再买！”爹地才心甘情愿的抱着忻沛走开。哈哈！


Simple Dimple: Flower Friends Activity Playgym - Bear

Product Descriptions:-

• From birth onwards
• Bright, Colourful & Infomative Number Playmat
• Many interactive & activity toys included such soft rattle, rattle keys, mirror
• A basic & must have toy for any growing baby
• Activity playgym wull keep baby busy for hours
• Excellent to stimulate baby's hand-eye coordination, sensory development, imagination, exploration, focus & problem solving skills
• Enhance baby's brain development through fun & play
• Non toxic & meet international safety requirements

Anakku musical soft toy


The Coloria Lion Wrist and ankle rattle

Product Descriptions:-

Wrist and ankle rattles - toys you can hear, feel, see, grab - toys for active infants. This rattle comes with a cute little elephant in bright colors and shapes to feel.

It can be used as wrist or ankle rattle and in stroller. It has bright attractive and contrast colours to promote/stimulate baby's sensory development.

This toy helps to encourage your child's sensory exploration through fun and engaging play time. Bright and high contrast colors stimulate hand-eye cordination and help build baby's imagination.

姨姨买的新衣

姨姨很喜欢买新衣给忻沛，每次都叫妈咪快快给忻沛换上。前几天因为下雨的关系，妈咪不敢给忻沛穿那件清凉的新衣。
今天的天气蛮炎热的，那件清凉的新衣应该可以秀出来了。冲完凉后，就赶快给忻沛换上。一换上后妈咪就后悔了，决定等宝宝在长大些才给她穿！为什么？看看以下的照片你就知道了。


换好以后，乖乖让妈咪拍照。衣服两侧没有缝合的，只有两条绳子绑着。


不到两分钟

整个肚子都露出来了

第一次穿裙

9.7.2010

每个星期六，我们都会聚在一起吃早餐，当然，忻沛早已经加入，成为新成员。
好几次出门，忻沛都是在睡眠中。为了不打扰他的睡眠，都是让他穿着睡衣出门 。难得今天忻沛早醒，就帮她抹抹脸，换件小裙。这是忻沛第一次穿裙，妈咪觉很还不错看，只是外婆说 ：“好像boy boy穿裙!"

Abbie 是夜猫子 - 1m3w5d old

Abbie的睡眠时间还是不定时，通常都是在凌晨一、二点才会正正的入眠。有时知道外婆和妈咪很累时，就会早一点乖乖入眠，但昨天竟然睡睡醒醒，在凌晨四点才真真入眠。

看看Abbie在凌晨一点多的时候

迟来的生产记

17.5.2010 产检
医生好像平时一样帮宝宝做超声波，量宝宝的头和脚，发觉宝宝的体重没有增加。看会上的星期的记录，宝宝已经两个星期没有增加体重了。医生再检查我的羊胎水，发觉羊胎水也开始减少。医生建议我催生，因为距离生产日期只有4天，不然就要很小心地观察胎动。和老公和妈妈讨论过后决定一切以宝宝为主，在宝宝健康的时候进行催生。

老公办好手续后，护士就带我到产房。踏进产房的那一刻，我头脑空白，寂静的产房回荡着的只有我的呼吸声和测量贝比心跳仪器发出的声音。过了不久，护士就来帮我放第一粒催生的药。它的功用是用来软化子宫。过了几个钟后，护士再来帮我检查，她说 ：“你的子宫门很深，也还没开，应该没有这么快会生。”她告诉我可能要等很长的时间，现在要争取时间休息。我开始还很好奇地四处张望。其实那时我没有感觉到有阵痛，呆在产房真的好无聊，又睡不着，漫漫长夜，在冰冷的产房怎么渡过呢？。不久后，听到对面产房传来 “Push.. Hard push.."的声音，过后就传来贝比的哭声。原来住在我对面的产妇生了，听说他也痛了一整天才生。

到了傍晚医生来检查，告诉我的子宫只开了1cm。叫我好好休息一夜，隔天早上再放一粒药。

当夜班的一位老护士对我很好，还叫我老公去打包食物给我吃，免得我生了贝比后要戒口 。大约十一点，我叫老公回家休息，我也上床睡觉了。

半夜，开始觉得子宫收缩，有轻微的阵痛，护士说是催生药发挥作用了。

18.5.2010

隔天6点早上，护士就来叫我起床，吃完早餐后，又来到了产房，子宫还是只开了1cm，护士就开始放第二粒的催生药。到了12点护士又来检查，子宫还是只开了2cm。护士说，照我子宫收缩的进度，应该还没那么快生! 天啊！

突然羊水破了，护士就来帮我包“包大人”。不久后，护士就来和我吊点滴。慢慢的，感觉到比较强烈的阵痛了，但还是很不规律。原来忍痛是很消耗体力的，我连讲话的力气都没有了。每次阵痛来袭，我都默默地叫救命，祈求它快点过去。护士时不时会来看看我，吩咐我痛的话就吸一吸gas。但，我发觉我在不断的阵痛的折磨下，意识逐渐混乱了，心里面竟然认输了，想剖腹产了，我还是劝我自己，忍吧，不能放弃！

大约3点，护士又进来了，还是那一句：你的子宫开得很慢，没那没快会生。我开始崩溃了，因为护士说勉勉强强才开了2cm，我的天呀！我再也不能忍耐了，叫老公更护士说我决定要开刀。虽然护士有劝我在忍耐一些些，但我真得不能再忍了，还对护士和老公发了小小的脾气,sorry。


最后，通知医生后，就准备进入手术房。大约在5：10pm,听到传来：哇哇哇... 的哭声，我的小宝贝出世啦！

爹地喂奶记

2010年6月23日是爹地第一次为我喂奶。虽然刚开始有点手忙脚乱，但我和妈咪还是很喜欢爹地喂奶的样子。好温馨呢:D

Abbie 像谁呢 ？

Result： Abbie looks equally like daddy and mummy . 你说呢 ？

MyHeritage: Family tree - Genealogy - Celebrity - Collage - Morph

血肿 (Hematoma)

My little Abbie is suffering Hematoma on her head and the "tower" was appeared in the 2nd day of birth. The Hematoma become bigger and bigger in day 4 and 5. It makes my Pediatrician worried and suggested to let Abbie to perform a blood test to check whether Abbie have any blood problem or not.
I really worried during that time when my Pediatrician told me the size of the Hematoma was increasing. My tears couldn't control and very wooried about Abbie as she was still admiting in the hospital.
Luckily, the blood test result show everthing is ok .The Hematoma also starting to reduce from time to time. In day 35, suddenly i felt that the Hematoma is gone. I don't know how to explain how happy am I.
Abbie, mummy feels so pround of you.. Hope you happy and healthy forever..

什么是血肿 ？(Hematoma)

产妇分娩时，由于子宫收缩和产道挤压，或发生难产，采用了胎头吸引术等，使得胎儿头部皮肤、皮下组织血液循环受阻，或...颅骨骨膜 下小血管破裂出血，以致局部出现充血，水肿、瘀血并形成头颅血肿，这种情况常被人称为“产瘤”。
头皮是颅骨外一层致 密的软组织，由皮肤、皮下组织、帽状腱膜层、腱膜下层和骨膜层组成， 含丰富的血管。头颅受到外力作用后，造成骨膜下小血管破裂出血，血液停留在局部而形成血肿。血肿多见于一侧或双侧头顶骨，不超越颅骨 骨缝。血肿可于新生儿出生后几小时出现，2～3日逐渐隆起， 形成小包，初期小包软而有弹性，软压不凹陷，一般经数周可逐渐吸收，在没有感染的情况下不需要处理，大人不必惊慌失措，但需保持患儿安静，不可按揉血肿，保护局部皮肤不受伤和避免受压，让 患儿向无血肿的一方侧卧。血肿表面如有擦伤，应及时看医生给予局部处理，以防感染。
新生儿头部出现的“产瘤”，仅仅是因为产伤而发生在骨膜与颅骨之 间的出血，并非是颅内出血，也没有殃及脑细胞，因而不会影响 到孩子的智力。